Spare the rod and spoil the child or nature vs. Nurture. What is the best parenting advice that you can get when you have a strong willed child. What I can tell you is dig in and don’t give up. You can make it through. Here are a few reminders in your struggling days of wanting to quit and send them off to boarding school.
I see less parenting these days and more of a friendship. I see a parent afraid that their child is going to mad at them. Let me give you a clue; your child is not going to like you sometimes. They will not like you calling them out on their behavior. But do it anyway, they will respect you for it. Other people will thank you too that your kid is not a brat.
The age of boundary crossing starts at about two years of age. Children realize that they can push the envelope ever so slightly. Some children are willful. But it’s your job and responsibility as a parent to set boundaries. Don’t let them fool you, children want them. They want to know the rules to live by. If they don’t have them they will be confused or set their own.
I’m all for free thought and children like out of the mouths of babes will say the truth. And if they do not like something they will say it as well. It is a job as a parent to teach a child when and when not says certain things. For example, telling your mom you hate them or hitting them is not right. Set that bar that this kind of behavior is not okay.
If you go to a store or anywhere and buy them something every time you go, guess what? They will expect you to buy them something every time you go to a store. Try teaching them the value of money. Let them spend money by giving them an allowance. They will learn money doesn’t grow on trees. Even if you have money to burn this is a great life lesson to learn. Don’t give your kids a sense of entitlement. Teach them things are earned. The only thing that is free is the love you give them.
Teach your children to appreciate everything in life. No matter what it is everything happens for a reason. Teach them to say please and teach them to say thank you, even if they don’t like it. Nothing is more irritating to me when I go to a birthday party of a child and when opening the gifts they scoff and say, “I don’t like this” in front of the entire group. The gift giver thought of you and gave you a gift, appreciate it.
Sharing is good. Teach your child that it is. If they don’t share take the items away until they can share, or something similar. A generation of ‘me’ is emerging. If everyone is thinking about themselves then where are we going to be? Teach your child you get more out of giving than receiving.
But bottom line; teach them that they are loved. A child filled with love will have the self esteem to conquer the world. They will have confidence to get through hard times and the courage to face the world as an adult.
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